From where it comes

What is the foundation we must have to love others? I have a habit of not letting others get to close. Of driving guys away before they see the evil and wickedness within. Before they can see my constant battle with my sin. Yet I forget everyone is sinful, has their own struggles. One thing I must do is be who I am. Open myself up to rebuke and affection. Actually say "hi" to my neighbors. Live as Christ in humbleness, boasting in Christ, serving, and glorifying God. I will try and by the grace of God I hope the Holy Spirit works on that. God please help me.