Random Thoughts

I have been up thinking. I am not harboring unforgiveness towards anyone but in light of conversations I have had with my husband I worry about the women who stay in dead end relationships with no end in sight. I once talked to an older lady and she was with a man 20 years...... I was taken aback and actually asked point blank, "Why have you not gotten married?".

I read this post on Facebook by a guy that when he met his wife within 2 weeks they were talking about marriage. I think there are reasons why guys string women along whether intentionally or unintentionally. You may stay because you feel sorry about their past. You may have grown to love them just like mold grows on surfaces. How can you tell if your relationship is like this?

- The man has not assumed the responsibilities of adulthood

- There is no clear direction as to where the relationship is going

- You are not a priority

- He is not pursuing you, you are pursuing him.

When one meets a guy serious about marriage and you, he will want to see you all the time. He will seriously pursue you. He will pray with you.

I guess I just end up feeling bad for the women who wait and wait thinking that one day they will get engaged or one day they will get married to the guy that they are with. One day he will realize that I am the one when it's just deceiving oneself. Love is shown clearly. Love lasts infatuation does not. A man will seek early on before the heart is engaged to discern whether or not marriage will be in the cards. If not he will let them know and cut things if, if it is yes then he will court the woman to gain her heart. He will treat her like a precious gift.