What It Takes to Have a Good Marriage

Jesus. The Holy Spirit has to empower you to love sacrificially, to hold the person as higher than yourself. As a wife what God calls me to do is to respect my husband. He is called to love me as Christ loved the church, to wash me in the water of the Word. 

I am thankful for what God has provided. Its so sweet that God has graciously set us in a state where we love each other more each day. I look at him and think wow this man is so handsome. Anyway let me go back to the topic at hand I don't think we would be in this honeymoon state of mind if it wasn't for Christ at work in our lives. 

God help me to be a good wife to him. To be thankful at what you do in his life. To submit to his leadership. To trust him because he trusts you and to communicate with him.  

God consider our desire for children and do it so others will marvel at what you do. You who gave children to Sarah, to Rebecca, to Rachel, to Hannah, to Elizabeth will surely be able to do it in our life. 

May our marriage reflect Christ and the Church. Thank you God for my husband, for Your love, for sending Your Son to die for us despite us being undeserving. 

Discipline

2 Timothy 1:6-7 ESV

For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands, for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.

God has not given us over to our fallen nature but instead gave us new life.

I have been overweight most of my life. Yet God has reminded me that He gives the believer self-control. 

There is food that I miss like pizza, bread, Trader Joe's mini chicken tikka masala samosas... Yet God is faithful. So I am back at it. Committing myself to it while I can by God's grace have children. So far there has been sucess even though I had hit a plateau. But I know God will do more amazing things in my mind,.heart and soul. So in the meantime I boast in my weakness knowing that God will continue the work with. 

To be a Better Wife

There are certain things the Bible says about what it means for a man to have a bad wife. 

Proverbs 25:24 ESV

It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

Proverbs 27:15 ESV

A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike;

I don't want to be that kind of wife. Yesterday I found myself impatient waiting on my husband. He was talking to someone at church and we were going to take a walk. I found myself getting more impatient the longer I waited. I am spoiled. So I talked to him about feeling impatient and I know its not something God wants me to be. I am very blessed by the relationship I have with my husband, he is my friend, my companion, and I hope by God's grace the father to our children. 

A lot of what this blog was for was to showcase what I have done to prepare for the proverbs 31 kind of woman. I have learned a lot, to cook, to sew, to sell items on the side yet in the end those things don't compare to the major attribute she must have to be a woman who fears the Lord.

I want to do my husband good all the days of his life, to respect him, to love him yet the reason why has to be because I love the Lord Jesus.

I can see now how much God has shown his love through my husband. When my phone was failing early on in our relationship he purchased me a phone. When I got back from Hawaii and I was sick with Covid my husband would visit me every night. He even purchased food for me when I wasn't feeling hungry. Even when he did not like my nose ring he didn't tell me to take it out. He was the first to say "I love you." He got me flowers just because. God is faithful. 

Love is a gift. God has shown His love for me that even though I have sinned Christ died for me. Not for me to remain the same butto be sanctified day by day.

I once read a book where the husband gave the wife a ring and it was inscribed with a saying I wonder if it was in French but it said "more than yesterday but less than tomorrow" talking about their love. I love my husband more now than I did when we were courting, then I did the day that we were married. 

There are times when we wonder why God had not had us meet sooner? I remind myself God's timing is perfect. 

Sorry for rambling on. I want to be a better wife to show love to my husband, to respect him, and what he does, to feed, and care for him, to encourage his faith and be the carer of our home.

I am thankful to God for all of the mercies He has provided.

The Devaluation of Marriage

In todays society there are men who want to be treated as a husband yet without the work. They give the girlfriend the minimum while she basically is trying to win the prize of being a bride. It is sad to see these women in the long run wasting years with someone who won't marry them. A guy usually knows early on if she is the one. Being married is a wonderful thing and as a Christian doing it in a way that honors God. I married a man who became my best friend. He listens to me and knows me, we sing together worship songs, we joke with each other, have adventures together. I make him lunch, encourage him, he makes me into a better woman knowing him. I wish sometimes I would have met him when he first came to Minnesota, he tells me the same. As I look back on knowing him and how our love has grown since marriage. I am grateful to God. 

To Love Others

Its a hard thing to love others especially when its clear they do not like you. The only thing you can do is love them like Christ loves you. This means not harboring resentment but just love. I love by offering help. It is too much of a drain to think of how others think about you. Instead its better to working God. To remember.how much God has forgiven me and let any actions flow from that.

Already August

Time flies. I have gotten used to it. Today I woke up at 2 am. Horrible. Yet I made myself productive and thank the Lord because I had an urge to make brown butter bacon bits chocolate chip cookies....... I really want to buy flakey salt.... Anyway I tried to make myself productive. I am industrious. I like to make homemade items. I like being profitable on the side. Its weird the differences that have come into my life. I am just glad to share me adventures with my beloved hubby. 

The Lord Cares

It is easy to give the slogan to Let go and let God. God says in the scriptures to cast all your cares on Him cause He cares for you. 

In the NASB it says this.

1 Peter 5:6-7 NASB

Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.

I give the Lord my fears and desires and all the worry that troubles me. I ask that God will help me to submit to my husband. I seek to be the kind of wife God calls me to be in Ephesians 5

Ephesians 5:22,33 NASB

22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.

Anyway its so late I better get to sleep.