Waiting on God

I remember the times when I speak to a cousin or aunt I have not seen in a long time. The first thing they ask me, "Do you have a boyfriend?" Then when I tell them no I don't even date they try set me up. Yet since this was in the past lets just say I would be the first one near the door saying okay find me a man. 

They did not seem to realize they were dealing with something that did not need a man for it to fix. I needed God that I may have seen that I was not thinking of being true to anyone I just wanted to see if it would finally appease a loneliness and self-hatred sin had brought me to. I just wanted to see if I would be loved for me. I have done many bad things. I have at one point in my life actually hated the male half of the human species.

Sometimes I wish I could go back and look into my desperate gaze during those troubled years and just say you don't need a man you need Jesus.

God brought me to himself.

What I have learned is that one should not date/court unless they are ready for marriage. One should during times together have an accountability couple with them. They should talk about values, future plans, past issues, should have real friendship, should get to know the person not only from what they themselves say and do but through their parents, siblings, and other church members, they should discuss, goals, expectations for marriage, and how they intend to maintain Christian values (most of this taken from Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship).

When I see people who put all their hope in love, then are crushed. I want to sit them nearby hold their hand and ask them, "Are you done trying to search for joy using your own strength?", "Are you finally willing to submit your whole life to the One who can bring you everlasting joy?", I want to tell them, you are settling for so little seeking what will only be temporary. Yet they go on believing that if they maintain in the course they are going they will find favorable results. 

Real love does not seek its own way, it is serving one another looking at the other person as better than ourselves. It is loving as Christ loved the church. I want everyone to know that today's "secular marriages" are nothing, cannot even begin to compare to the awe of two people who love God more than anything, set their sights on marriage. I hope for that myself when I am ready.

I hope I did not go into too many different tangents.

Church

The Church I currently attend has services Saturday and Sunday. It is a big church so the only people I know are part of a small singles groups. It was explained to me that it used to be called B.A.S.I.C. (bag a spouse in church). I doubt sincerely that it works out that way. 

But I know that to a lot of singles finding someone to marry is an issue. A lot of time some create a singles group only to fill the time with activity until a spouse comes along. The ones I think that work are ones that serve God by giving discipleship, reading the word, worshiping, and fellowship. I like that and find it to be a blessing unfortunately due to the fact that I cannot drive I often cannot go. I hope to learn to drive soon that way I will be able to be more involved in church. I hope within 2 months I will be able to get my license. 

My sincerest desire is to go to the mission fields for God.

Following the Narrow Way

One cannot be separated from the world yet still love the things of this world. Would God want me to watch on TV characters that blaspheme his name, that though it may be "fiction" break many of his commandments on screen. 

Yet I think laws are meant to make a person see their lack in the eyes of God. The law cannot save us but when God saves a person they want to submit to him live by his word. It may be different for each person. For me it is going out and proclaiming the Gospel, living not by this world but how God says. 

Sometimes I feel like an outcast in my own family though. I watch preaching and a half own commentary each day. I go on myspace. I used to even preach online in Yahoo! Chat. 

What I am having a hard time with is with the question, what makes a real Christian? They have to grow. They have to love the word of God. They have to be more sanctified today than they were yesterday. They cannot seek after God for solely what He can give. God is not a genie.

I want His Glory to be first and foremost on my mind but it is not. What was this morning on my mind was a nightmare I had yesterday. Today I am going to church, next week I have the membership classes. It will be cutting off the final tie I have with the previous church I had attended.

It had gotten to the point where I was Martha in that church serving and serving and not looking to kneeling at the feet of Jesus. Faith without works is dead but we are saved by grace through faith not by works or people would try to boast.

I really need discipleship but I don't know who can help me.

Work in Progress

Temptations come and go but God is everlasting.

I am 24 with standards based on the bible. I am young and still becoming wiser. To the many people I know I am a throwback. I am old fashioned in my thinking and modest in my appearance.

I still have my moments when I stumble mostly when I become prideful and believing I could do things on my own.

Things I have come to believe:

• One must submit to God in all things
• A believer cannot be yoked with a non-believer
• Dating is not right it encourages intimacy without marriage
• If I am watching something on the TV yet has blasphemy and sexual content I turn it off

There is more but I will hold on that.

A lot of times when I speak to people I know they think I am weird. Since when did doing what is right, good, and moral become weird and backwards.

I have said to people I have never dated. I think the courtship model is is the best one when contemplating marriage. Christians should never think about becoming in any way involved with someone who is not Christian. God has to be first and foremost and work done to glorify the One who gave us life.

The Past

There are many who would brag about the bad things they have done yet still say they are a good person. From God I have learned better. I was addicted to porn for nine years from from the time I was 13 until I turned 22. I prided myself on that even though I had seen the worse of the worse at least I never acted it out. 

Yet all of that was just as bad. How dare I judge someone who has committed other forms of sexual immorality? Yet that is what I was. To God it is just as bad. All condemned.

The things about my sin is that I knew it was wrong. All of it bad, I would cry after capitulating time and time again. Yet I would do something worse.

How could I have ever thought that what I was doing brought me happiness, pleasure. It was all but a smokescreen. What God has given me is lasting.